Please forgive the long post. There is about an eight year time period I try to cover in a few paragraphs.
As I mentioned in a previous post, I am currently working on my certificate in financial planning to become a Certified Financial Planner. My interest in financial planning did not come about by an early interest in money and financial planning, rather by living life and making choices good and bad.
My wife and I married young at 18 years old. We bought our first house at 19. I joined the Marine Reserves and began going to college working on a degree in education. In addition to the home we purchased we financed both of our cars and had student loans to pay for our college, the beginnings of money in the real world and building our credit I guess. My wife finished college first, then I did. We were doing okay, not poor, not wealthy by any means, just okay. We had our first child and decided that my wife would stay at home. I left education and took a job with a large retailer and we moved to North Carolina. We were only in NC about seven months when I was re-called to active duty by the Marines is support of Iraqi Freedom. This was the beginning of my reality check in financial education. We did well financially while I was on active duty since we had an allowance for housing, food, and health care was paid for in full. In the process of being re-called I was required to complete a will. We were supposed to list our assets and liabilities and honestly didn’t know how to determine which was which. I had always been impressed with myself because I could talk shop with real estate agents and assumed I knew what constituted a smart home purchase because I knew what “curb appeal” was, or I felt knowledgeable when speaking with the banker because I understood the importance of debt to income ratios. The reality was I wanted to appear knowledgeable on the surface and hoped someone else would be looking out for my best interests. Wrong.
After I got off of active duty we moved back to my home state and purchased the house of our dreams. We also had our second child. The home was purchased on some “creative financing,” though I don’t blame the bank, we should have know what we were getting ourselves into. So, we were in our new home with our daughter and new son trying to float a house payment that was nearly 50% of my take home income, two car payments, at least three credit cards, and our student loans. Do you see the disaster around the corner? We shoud have. Things were fine for about 4 months, then the company I worked for discontinued a travel allowance I had been receiving. I had used that allowance to help qualify for the loan. I knew immediately we were in trouble. I began to read everything I could get my hands on related to personal finance. I re-joined the Marine Reserves to temporarily increase our income. We then began a process where we eliminated nearly $18,000 in debt in less than a year. We didn’t use an equity loan on our home, or a loan consolidation company. We created the mess, and we took it upon ourselves to fix it.
So that is where my interest in personal finance began. As I worked my way through the mess I was mad at myself for not seeking earlier in my life to learn more about money, obviously I was going to earn an income, so why didn’t I do more to find the best uses for it. My passion for educating and helping people has manifested itself through personal finance and I am finally talking more about this and trying to find ways to reach out and help others feel empowered and take control of their own lives financially.
It has been said by many that money is the last taboo. Most people will discuss sex with their children, co-workers, or friends before they discuss money. I simply don’t understand why. We all earn it, we all make mistakes, so why can’t we learn from each other? Do you feel comfortable discussing your finances, or lessons you have learned with money with others, or is it still a taboo, something that you feel is best left unspoken?